why i love journaling!

after a long and busy day I always liked to grab a pen and spill my thoughts on to paper. Just writing pages and pages about what has been going on or what was bothering me. When I was younger I used to start my diary entries like this: “Dear Diary…” which is kind of cute but also wildly unnecessary (every girl on tv did it like that though). Nowadays I will just start writing.

My favourite method of writing is just literally writing down what is on my mind. No fancy sentences, no connotations and no shame. I am clearing my mind by putting my wandering mind to rest by focussing on what I need to let go off. Sometimes it’s just stuff like “oh I missed the train today that sucks”, other times my entries consist of more complex issues. But you can focus on whatever you want when you get out your preferred medium to write in. Some other methods include using so-called journal prompts. Those are used to for example answer a specific question, focus on a certain area of your life and reflect on them. I used to find very good ones on tumblr and pinterest by just searching for “journal prompts

making your space cosy for journaling is a good idea

Personally I enjoy physical diaries which have thick pages and lines on them. I purchased mine at a local TK Maxx! But you can find journals everywhere. Some friends of mine prefer digital diaries which you can find plenty of on the App Store. Also if you like physical writing maybe grab a cool pen which is especially for writing into your diary, it makes a difference I swear.

 

Why do I journal?

  • calming down by focussing on the physical sensation of writing

 

  • being mindful about what happened in a specific timespan

 

  • doing some good old self reflection

 

  • focus on positive aspects of my life, like what I am grateful for at the moment

 

  • manifestation (here is a good video about it by the lovely Lavendaire)

 

  • to-do lists to stay on track

 

  • to not be on my phone or use social media

 

  • empty my loud thoughts

 

Journaling and Self Care

By making time for yourself in your busy schedule you can get to know yourself better which I guess is always a good idea. Regarding self care it’s important to not stress about writing in your journal every day. It’s essential to not make it an obligatory task. Another crucial act of self care is self reflection to know if you acted in the right way in certain situations. If you didn’t you will notice and be better when the next circumstance appears.

Overall journaling is a great experience and method to stay in touch with your feelings and your mind.

☁️ Q: Do you journal? And if so do you have any other tips you would like to share? ☁️

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why small changes matter

one step at a time is a simple statement which sounds easy to act upon but in reality that’s not always possible. We always try to improve ourselves and move forward, even when life feels stagnant we try to keep moving. Being stuck in a routine feels good to me, knowing when to do what and having enough freetime to mix something up. Routines can be helpful for living organised and if you’re stuck in a rut they will help you to get back on track on doing simple tasks which might have felt impossible to do before.

But regardless of creating and following your own routine small changes can make big differences. Getting up in the morning is hard for sleepy heads like me, so simply changing up my morning habits has brought me a long way in the last month. After getting up I usually just went and got breakfast but in the last month I decided that washing my face and drinking some water should happen beforehand. And it worked, the cold water on my face helped to start the day with feeling less like I had been forced to leave sleep-town but like I left voluntarily.

morning teas
morning teas

Another time in which I noticed how small changes can impact us in every quarter of our life is when I put working out onto my list of things again. Being sporty since I was a kid I got out of habit when uni took over and I did not have my beloved routine anymore. So signing up at my local gym helped me to feel better about myself, in cases if being fit again and feeling good about my body (which I thank the Gods, never really had issues with anyways). But honestly the simple step of putting running, yoga and other bodymoving activities into your life can brighten your mood somehow. It works for me at least.

Self Care wise I could advise to do a small thing for yourself daily. Something simple like drinking your favourite sort of tea or watching an episode of your favourite tv series. Those activities might seem small and not really important but in the long run you will notice that taking time for yourself and being mindful about your body and your emotions can improve how you feel. Putting your feelings into words might also be helpful method of noticing your improvements and putting the focus onto small things (if you’re interested in how i track that kind of stuff, i might write a post about it soon 😉).

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writing down your thoughts can help

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☁️ uni perspectives: rude professors ☁️

this is an article about some weird and rude encounters I or my friends had at my uni with several professors, lecturers or other working officials. This article should bring attention to how students are treated inferior and uneducated.

One time I messed up and signed up for a wrong course, things like that happen and are not really uncommon at German universities. Messing up sucks but trying to contain a positive mindset during the process is even worse. So I wrote some e-mails (like you have to do alllll the time at my uni at least) and got a really sassy and rude response from a professor I do not even know. “I get it you’re superior to me” I thought while reading it. “but do you have to underline it in every phrase you use?” Let me put my answer as simple as possible: no.

Another really weird incident happened during a lecture where the professor on stage directly made jokes about how one of his colleges is a bad teacher and that was his reason for us being “stupid”. Uhm? Hello? I was super uncomfortable since I knew that colleague and well he did do a good job in my opinion.

You are better than us.We get it. Every student knows that professors are not equal to us, it’s logical? But bragging about how other colleagues don’t do their job right on stage or replying in e-mails in a language and tone (i study literature i know how tone works) which is degrading is simply not that professional and since we’re all adults I consider it quiet rude.

Another problem I have faced is asking questions during a lecture. University should encourage curiosity and not dismiss it. Asking a question is not plain simple when about 200 other students are around. Also it’s not questioning the lecturer or whoever is in the front. It’s basically just wanting to know something in a deeper way or adding new knowledge to my brain. So why is it necessary to ridicule a student? Or turn the question into a joke about diapers? Well it simply is not. Lectures and professors make student feel stupid with that kind of behaviour, or even worse anxious about asking questions which is a basis of the educational process.

Certainly not all of my lecturers act that way, there are some which are just chill and obviously take their job very seriously,. And honestly I’m glad they exist because without them uni would be way more stressful and unenjoyable.

☁️ Have you ever encountered such events at your university? Have you felt the same way or do you think I overreacted? ☁️

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*Disclaimer: I’m not telling you which uni I go to or which persons were involved in those incidents and I only focussed on my point of view and my feelings towards the issue.*

* i edited this post because I forgot to add the end paragraph to it lmao*

why you should speak up for yourself

“why did you do this?”

“do you think you have thought this through?”

“i think you move on too fast”

“i liked your other idea better”

all of the questions are being asked when you have made a decision you have been thinking about for an endless amount of time. other people can not stop lurking into your business and questioning your ideals and keep passing on your new path via texts to their friends and families. then it’s probably time to speak up for yourself.

Knowing that you have worked out your new plan and considered all the things that could go wrong, people not believing in you hurts. For me asking the questions above if you have not been part of my journey is rude and makes me feel like you don’t trust my decisions. Maybe it’s a personal thing.

Raising your voice to stand up for what you believe in is not always the easiest step to take, it gets even harder when it directly involves your own feelings. Towards some people there is not even a need to actually justify your new path, your new career or your new partner – they don’t need to know everything that has been going on in your life – nevertheless speaking up for yourself is necessary in some cases. It’s necessary when your boss asks why you are leaving, it’s necessary when a close friend is genuinely worried or if your partner takes a big role in your new planned future. Those are times when you have to take action:

” Don’t worry I have thought everything through over and over again for a long time”

“I don’t feel right going in the old direction anymore”

“right now change is what I need and I checked out all the possible ways I can do better”

above are classical phrases my friends have probably heard me say at least once in the time we have known each other. Furthermore you have to make sure that you can explain your situation a bit more detailed to make sure they get why you are requiring change, it’s not like you have to tell every situation which sucked – just paint them a picture. And remember not everyone will support you and not everyone will agree with you but that’s how life is. But knowing that you spoke up for yourself will make every day easier. You will know who supports you even when change is unavoidable and you will be sure who to talk to when you’re planning out another new direction in which your life is heading.

 

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winter survival tips

it’s cold, it’s snowy, public transport is always late. That’s winter.

In winter I always feel like I should be sleeping like hibernation, you know? But however humans don’t hibernate. Soooo I decided that well I have to stay awake and maybe should even actually take action to make winter less annoying. Here are some of my tips to survive the dark half of the year.

  • try to keep a routine!

even though it’s nearl dark all the time, you should stick a routine like getting up at a decent time and try to manage living. For me it’s getting uup around 8am, making breakfast, drinking juice etc.

  • vitamin d

since the sun is not shining as often as we and our bodies are used to, a lack of vitamin d can happen. A lack of that vitamin leads to feeling sleepy, worn out, your hair falls out and you can’t sleep well. Therefore I recommend getting some cool vitamin d pills at your local grocery store (at least where I live you can get them at some stores which are not the pharmacy).

  • absorb light

like plants we also need light. Using so called “SAD” (seasonal affective disorder) -lamps might be a great idea to wake your body up when it’s dark outside. I purchased this one on amazon and for me it works. I turn it on while eating breakfast and I noticed that my mood got much better.

  • self care

since winter is also exam season some of us struggle with feeling overwhelmed. Try to make time for self care and catching up with friends and family. Find some ideas on my older post about creating a self care day.

  • don’t isolate yourself!!

very important for getting through rough and cold times is to make the best out of them. Don’t spend all your time locked inside: instead take a walk and get some fresh air, meet friends at the cinema or go ice skating.

 

I would love to hear your ideas!

 

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☁️ how to deal with anxiety ☁️

that feeling when you’re stressed out about everything happening at once: your roommate listening to music way too loud, there are three essays left to finish, your laundry is not done yet and suddenly an unknown number calls you: ANXIETY KICKS IN.

Recently I felt really squishy and overwhelmed and could not really find a way to get out of my uncomfortable mindset, so I created this list to help you (and me) to find new focus when we need some escape of our feelings and surroundings. Everyone deals with anxiety differently and it kicks in individual situations, this is how I experience to calm down after everything got a bit too much.

  • get comfortable!

grab some warm socks, a big blanket or a general heating source (this includes pets and humans too). If you are in public try to find a place to sit down at first.

  • focus on your breathing

try to have a calm and steady rhythm of breath. Breath in for about five seconds and breath out for three. Maybe try to sync your breathing to the gif sets I found online:

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  • comfort food and drinks!

For inner warmth and a general good feeling, staying hydrated and full is always a good idea. Classic comfort food can be for example Mac’n’Cheese, chocolate or Noodle Soup. Ideal comfort drinks are: lavender or chamomile tea and hot chocolate.

  • talk to somebody about your feelings

text a friend, call your partner or your mom or try to visit an online chatroom (here is an article on why it can help to chat online) which was quiet helpful when I needed reassurance that really everything is going to be okay.

  • distract yourself for a while

this can work either with watching your favourite movie or tv series, reading your favourite childhood book or drawing in mandala. For me playing some Animal Crossing always helps, others recommend listening to audiobooks.

  • don’t scratch or itch your skin

on tumblr I read that peel-off face masks can help to stop the urge from picking your skin which is a common coping mechanism to escape anxious thoughts. So maybe you should give it a try.

  • calm music

those lofi/hiphop beat mixes on YouTube always calm me down, there are many different one which for example include video game or movie melodies. While writing this I chose to listen to this radio.

Q: How do you cope with anxious feelings? Do you have any other tips and ideas?

*Disclaimer: I’m no professional and this are just my personal tips to calm down, but if you still don’t feel quiet alright or you feel like anxiety is taking over you should definitely seek out and get professional medical help.

Some information on Generalised Anxiety Disorder by the NHS: here

Check out this website by the Mental Health Foundation to get an overview of how to get support.

 

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bye 2018 and hello 2019

it’s a new year which means my blog is already turning one year old (yay). Generally speaking I really enjoy setting goals but this year for me won’t be much about achieving but more about figuring out the goals I really want to anticipate, whatever that means for now.

In 2018 a lot of cool events happened and well in this post I wanted to tell you about 18 things I enjoyed last year!!

  • meditating

i really enjoy checking in with how i’m feeling and actively noticing the world around me, using headspace i got into the habit but since I can’t afford a subscription I just do it by myself or with youtube videos at the moment

  • short trips to the beach with my boyfriend
  • campfire evenings with the gang   img_0172

 

  • writing this blog

after a year of writing a few posts every month i really came to enjoy expressing myself online and sharing my thoughts does not make me uncomfortable anymore

  • taking photos

still no photographer but well it’s fun.

  • levelling up my communication skills

talking helps a lot, i really noticed that in 2018.

  • painting on canvas
  • journaling
  • trying recipes off Pinterest

here a some of my favourites: Bruschetta Noodle Salat & Veggie Quesadillas

  • concerts
  • watching youtube videos

my favourite YouTubers last year definitely were Ally (i just love her??), neonfiona and Harmony , definitely check them out if you like self care and lgbtq stuff ✨

  • studio ghibli movies

always enjoying a calm evening watching spirited away or my neighbour totoro.

  • reading cute books

my favourites of last year were Radio Silence by Alice Oseman and The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson.

  • practising self care
  • reducing my plastic use

conscious shopping should just be more present on our minds since well the earth has about 13 years left before climate change hits. (find a post about my tips for you here)

  • using a planner
  • buying vinyls
  • doing yoga

yoga really fits into my routine and i really need to strengthen my back and shoulders which works pretty good with yoga, at the moment i practice at home but i’m planning on starting yoga classes this year (go me!!)

☁️ What did you enjoy most in 2018? ☁️

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The Gift of Friendship (it’s a personal post)

this post is for the people which i am very grateful for and I feel like I need to tell them how much they mean to me.

I am not a very direct person which means I don’t tell my friends how much i love them very often, I express my love and admiration for them differently. I listen, I help and I care. This year I tried to thank them more often for being there for me and for being part of my life. Sometimes I felt left alone somehow and that has guided me to learning that every single human being expresses their love and feeling of friendship in a very different way.

This year a lot of things happened and change has been a constant occurrence. We all grow and we all did experience unpleasant times in which advice and general support of our friends were needed. For me I am grateful that I can seek my friends any time and anywhere if I need someone to talk to or just to rant.

Additionally communication seems to be difficult sometimes. Texting is not easy for me because I tend to type fast and not really reflect before typing, also I enjoy face-to-face communication much more. It’s easier for me to sense and understand my friends’ feelings if they are directly in front of me (some of them call me an empath btw). That’s why appreciate when my friends make time to see even though life is busy. I deeply enjoyed many spontaneous meet-ups this year where we just hung out and chatted about what was going on in our lifes.

A few of my favourite moments with my favourite people this year:

– our May Party, we all had such a good time

– when we were at the campsite before our youth groups arrived

– the bbq’s at our oldest friend’s house!!

– my birthday at the lake with my best friend

– a sleepover after years of not having one

– every monday walking around at night

– pokémon go sessions

– every deep talk that accidentally happened

– when we went to the club and we all were tired af

– sitting outside together in summer and just having a relaxed time

I just wanted to say thank you!! Thank you for everyone reading this and thank you for supporting me ✨

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December Times

every year it’s here: December! Suddenly everyone is going crazy and starts reflecting on their achievements and stresses about buying the perfect Christmas presents. You can’t even catch a break of that feeling online since every user shows off how much they have changed this year and will guide you through their busy present shopping.

But not everything is tense.

Self-reflection always play a big part because a new year will start soon. People reflect on what they did right, what they have learned and maybe also on what they wish had never happened. I agree that self-reflection is a good method to improve and even address change but why do many of us practice reflection in December only? Maybe it’s already too late to adapt to new opportunities or to act on mistakes one might have made. This is what all of us could change in 2019: reflect on our actions shortly after we have done something. For example: You got drunk and told someone that they have hurt you and then accidentally knock yourself unconscious? Maybe it’s time to rethink your behaviour and if getting knocked out is really the right solution to life. But well since there is no new year approaching and “new year – new me” is not happening yet, why bother?

Making people happy by getting a cool present for them always creates a feeling of genuine happiness inside my soul. Even when I did not spent a lot of money on it, like buying a coffee for a tired friend or bringing snacks for them with you. Gift-giving can be an amazing love language if the goal is to make your receiver feel appreciated and loved. Nevertheless in the merry holiday season suddenly many folks decide that it is the time where stuff like “secret santa” just has to be done. I myself wonder sometimes if those people are into giving only when they too receive something?

Maybe I’m too critical sometimes. Maybe I’m just noticing how different everyone acts when winter is here. What do you think about December Times?

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Rant: let’s talk about stress

we all get bummed out sometimes but the feeling when the to-do lists stay unfinished, getting up turns to : “please just five more minutes”, and catching oneself stumbling through a never ending spiral of chores is way more damaging than just being unmotivated.

It’s when motivation is not enough anymore.

It’s when lying in bed and trying to catch sleep gets harder because your brain won’t shut up.

It’s when you know there is more stuff to be done which you don’t even really care about.

That’s Stress.

I never thought in my life that I would be unhappy because of work. You have to know, I deeply enjoy learning new things and engaging with and discussing about them but I reached the point where all of the readings and exercises don’t really bring me any joy anymore. It makes me feel stuck knowing that everything of which my uni timetable exists is not worth anything in the future job I’m taking the classes for. The problem: all of them are mandatory and not interchangeable. I’m stuck and I’m stressed about it.

But I won’t stop trying to find a solution and I won’t bend down for a system which clearly does not work. And being stressed is unhealthy for the body and for the soul. It takes away your freedom and it tenses your muscles so that moving even becomes painful.

Basically, stress fucking sucks.

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